Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Would You Remarry?I have a controversial question for today. If something were to happen to your spouse for example they got sick and passed away, would you remarry? From experience with my parents, my dad passed away at 42 years young. My mom was only 40. I didn't want to see my mom go through the rest of her life alone. Luckily she met a wonderful man her same age who was also a widow. They have been married 14 years now. Back before my dad ever passes my mom use to tease that if she passed first, he better not remarry or have another women in her house. So, what are your thoughts? Would you consider re-marrying? Have you ever thought about this? How would you feel if your S.O. remarried? Here is something cute I received on this subject:
A husband and wife are sitting quietly in bed reading when thewife looks over at him and asks a bold question.
WIFE: "What would you do if I died? Would you get married again?"
HUSBAND: "Definitely not!"
WIFE: "Why not - don't you like being married?"
HUSBAND: "Of course I do."
WIFE: "Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
HUSBAND: "Okay, I'd get married again."
WIFE: "You would?" (with a hurtful look on her face).
HUSBAND: (makes audible groan).
WIFE: "Would you live in our house?"
HUSBAND: "Sure, it's a great house."
WIFE: "Would you sleep with her in our bed?"
HUSBAND: "Where else would we sleep?"
WIFE: "Would you let her drive my car?"
HUSBAND: "Probably, it is almost new."
WIFE: "Would you replace my pictures with hers?"
HUSBAND: "That would seem like the proper thing to do."
WIFE: "Would she use my golf clubs?"
HUSBAND: "No, she's left-handed."
WIFE: -- silence --
HUSBAND: "Crap."
Sonya said at 5:58 AM
Comments:
cut joke - but on a serious note...I think marriage should be shared by two people that love one another and want to spend the rest of their life together. The vow says, "through sickness and health until death do us part..." If one spouse passes, the union is not broken, they will forever remain in your heart, but meeting someone new and sharing a life together with them is just a new chapter. I think if one finds the right person, a second chapter in one's life is more than acceptable. Your Mother found a wonderful Man she could share the next chapter in her life with. I say it is perfectly acceptable - my opinion and I am stickin' to it.
Great post - thanks for the ponder.
Great post - thanks for the ponder.
Ames - that was beautifully put. I'm so with you on this one. You almost made my cry with all the symbolic love talk.
My dad remarried after many years since my mom passed away.
I have thought about this and I do not know if I would or not.
I have thought about this and I do not know if I would or not.
Beading - true. It prolly does depend on the individual and the circumstance to some degree.
L of B - glad you like the funny. LOL! Good point.
L of B - glad you like the funny. LOL! Good point.
thanks sonya - see sometimes I can be serious and intellectual - you just have to give me the right subject matter. I also agree with LocuTus of Borg - there is not just one person...I think we have several "sole mates". I think this because I had to sit in detention with a boy I detested one day and I said to him, " this is going to be terrible "...he told me to just think it could be worse. Well, at the age of 11, I just thought over and over, "it could be worse...", but it wasn't until I was older that I realized what he was saying. If I was able to get along with John Loveland for an hour I believe anything is possible :)
Cute joke!
As for me, I'd consider remarrying, although I think I might enjoy being alone for awhile. My mother passed away when she was 42 & my dad was 46. My dad took about 2 years to start dating a woman. She broke his heart two years later. I woke up to my dad bawling his eyes out at the kitchen table one morning. Ugh. Now, he's been with a nice divorcee for about 3 years. I think he'd be up for marrying her, but she's a little soured on the word marriage. I suspect they'll move in together at some point, though.
I'd have a really hard time thinking about Chris getting remarried, but for pete's sake, I'll be dead and I don't particularly believe in an afterlife where we sit around watching the living, so he has my full permission!
As for me, I'd consider remarrying, although I think I might enjoy being alone for awhile. My mother passed away when she was 42 & my dad was 46. My dad took about 2 years to start dating a woman. She broke his heart two years later. I woke up to my dad bawling his eyes out at the kitchen table one morning. Ugh. Now, he's been with a nice divorcee for about 3 years. I think he'd be up for marrying her, but she's a little soured on the word marriage. I suspect they'll move in together at some point, though.
I'd have a really hard time thinking about Chris getting remarried, but for pete's sake, I'll be dead and I don't particularly believe in an afterlife where we sit around watching the living, so he has my full permission!
I would prolly not remarry....I have always said if and when i get divorced or any other thing i am not remarrying....i like being by myself and doing my own thing when i want....i am what you call way to strong willed i guess.....i'll have a boyfriend or two, or three but not remarrying
Ames - he would die if he is in blogger land and seen this post with his name in it. LOL! Oh well, he ended up being an inspiration, right?
Kim - your poor dad. Glad he found someone for companionship if nothing else.
Greta - I have been divorced and living with my S.O. for over 4 years now. We constantly get the question of when are we getting married. We have both been married and got burn. Everything is great they way it is. If nothing is broke why change it? So, I totally understand your point too.
Kim - your poor dad. Glad he found someone for companionship if nothing else.
Greta - I have been divorced and living with my S.O. for over 4 years now. We constantly get the question of when are we getting married. We have both been married and got burn. Everything is great they way it is. If nothing is broke why change it? So, I totally understand your point too.
Hehehehe I heard that joke before but it's still funny lol.
Ok here's my take on it. I believe alot of the time when a partner is dying they very often say on their death bed or shortly before that if their partner finds a new love in his/her life and they want to marry this person then it would be ok. I dont think that the dying person would want their partner to be 'lonely' for the rest of their life especially if they are young with their S.O. dies.
I dont think that it's going against any vows that may have been made. It states "in sickness and in health, till death do us part" - so therefore it's not breaking anything because one half of the relationship will have died.
And when you think of the upside of remarrying ... you found someone else, your mum did too, Beading's dad found someone else and there are other examples as well :)
Ok here's my take on it. I believe alot of the time when a partner is dying they very often say on their death bed or shortly before that if their partner finds a new love in his/her life and they want to marry this person then it would be ok. I dont think that the dying person would want their partner to be 'lonely' for the rest of their life especially if they are young with their S.O. dies.
I dont think that it's going against any vows that may have been made. It states "in sickness and in health, till death do us part" - so therefore it's not breaking anything because one half of the relationship will have died.
And when you think of the upside of remarrying ... you found someone else, your mum did too, Beading's dad found someone else and there are other examples as well :)
Gareth - this has to be the first serious comment I have ever gotten from you. WOW! A totally different side of you. Who knew? LOL! Anyway, I think what you are saying makes perfect sense and was very well put.
Oh I have many different sides lol. Sure I like to joke but that's not all of me. Not by a longggggg way :)
I just couldn't imagine loving someone as much as I do him.
He is a part of me. I couldn't imagine anyone else even coming CLOSE to filling it the hole he would leave.
Would I fuck again? Yes.
Marry again? Probably not.
He is a part of me. I couldn't imagine anyone else even coming CLOSE to filling it the hole he would leave.
Would I fuck again? Yes.
Marry again? Probably not.
Gareth - I have so much to learn.
Nowhere - Fucking is a different subject all together. I know we can't go without that. LOL!
Nowhere - Fucking is a different subject all together. I know we can't go without that. LOL!
I would probably remarry if I found the right person. I would fully expect and hope that Shawn would remarry.
Glowie - that is good that you wouldn't mind Shawn doing the same that you might be willing to do.
Jodes - I prolly would too.
Jodes - I prolly would too.
I would remarry if the right person came about.
Actually I take that back. Bc if I weren't w/ my husband, I probably wouldn't be w/ another man again. I'd swing the other way. ;) LOL
Actually I take that back. Bc if I weren't w/ my husband, I probably wouldn't be w/ another man again. I'd swing the other way. ;) LOL
EE- if I had known about adult toys prior to my first husband I would have never of gotten married. I mean they don't talk back and are guaranted to pleasure you every time. LOL!
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