I have a controversial question for today. If something were to happen to your spouse for example they got sick and passed away, would you remarry? From experience with my parents, my dad passed away at 42 years young. My mom was only 40. I didn't want to see my mom go through the rest of her life alone. Luckily she met a wonderful man her same age who was also a widow. They have been married 14 years now. Back before my dad ever passes my mom use to tease that if she passed first, he better not remarry or have another women in her house. So, what are your thoughts? Would you consider re-marrying? Have you ever thought about this? How would you feel if your S.O. remarried? Here is something cute I received on this subject:
A husband and wife are sitting quietly in bed reading when thewife looks over at him and asks a bold question.
WIFE: "What would you do if I died? Would you get married again?"
HUSBAND: "Definitely not!"
WIFE: "Why not - don't you like being married?"
HUSBAND: "Of course I do."
WIFE: "Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
HUSBAND: "Okay, I'd get married again."
WIFE: "You would?" (with a hurtful look on her face).
HUSBAND: (makes audible groan).
WIFE: "Would you live in our house?"
HUSBAND: "Sure, it's a great house."
WIFE: "Would you sleep with her in our bed?"
HUSBAND: "Where else would we sleep?"
WIFE: "Would you let her drive my car?"
HUSBAND: "Probably, it is almost new."
WIFE: "Would you replace my pictures with hers?"
HUSBAND: "That would seem like the proper thing to do."
WIFE: "Would she use my golf clubs?"
HUSBAND: "No, she's left-handed."
WIFE: -- silence --
Great post - thanks for the ponder.
I have thought about this and I do not know if I would or not.
I personally think it is ok because there is not just "one" person out there for everyone. If your spouse passes on and you met someone a few years later that also makes you completely, there is nothing wrong with that. Some people would not because they feel like they would be cheating on their spouse. I think it all depends on the person, but I do not think there is anything wrong with it.
L of B - glad you like the funny. LOL! Good point.
As for me, I'd consider remarrying, although I think I might enjoy being alone for awhile. My mother passed away when she was 42 & my dad was 46. My dad took about 2 years to start dating a woman. She broke his heart two years later. I woke up to my dad bawling his eyes out at the kitchen table one morning. Ugh. Now, he's been with a nice divorcee for about 3 years. I think he'd be up for marrying her, but she's a little soured on the word marriage. I suspect they'll move in together at some point, though.
I'd have a really hard time thinking about Chris getting remarried, but for pete's sake, I'll be dead and I don't particularly believe in an afterlife where we sit around watching the living, so he has my full permission!
Kim - your poor dad. Glad he found someone for companionship if nothing else.
Greta - I have been divorced and living with my S.O. for over 4 years now. We constantly get the question of when are we getting married. We have both been married and got burn. Everything is great they way it is. If nothing is broke why change it? So, I totally understand your point too.
Ok here's my take on it. I believe alot of the time when a partner is dying they very often say on their death bed or shortly before that if their partner finds a new love in his/her life and they want to marry this person then it would be ok. I dont think that the dying person would want their partner to be 'lonely' for the rest of their life especially if they are young with their S.O. dies.
I dont think that it's going against any vows that may have been made. It states "in sickness and in health, till death do us part" - so therefore it's not breaking anything because one half of the relationship will have died.
And when you think of the upside of remarrying ... you found someone else, your mum did too, Beading's dad found someone else and there are other examples as well :)
He is a part of me. I couldn't imagine anyone else even coming CLOSE to filling it the hole he would leave.
Would I fuck again? Yes.
Marry again? Probably not.
Nowhere - Fucking is a different subject all together. I know we can't go without that. LOL!
Jodes - I prolly would too.
Actually I take that back. Bc if I weren't w/ my husband, I probably wouldn't be w/ another man again. I'd swing the other way. ;) LOL